Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Losing a Tooth Can Be Scary

Losing a tooth can be really dramatic when you're on the spectrum. I never would have known that before my daughter Aleks came into my life. In fact, I thought the most important part about losing a tooth all had to do with the tooth fairy and how much money she left under the pillow. Two lost teeth later and one still loose tooth, I have an all new appreciation for what Aleks must have felt when she lost her first tooth.
Her loose tooth story begins like most kids. Aleks had a loose tooth, asked what would happen and was excited at the prospect of losing a tooth. The reality was very different. Aleks came home from school that day and said 'Mommy, my tooth is super loose.' She was eating her dinner when she yelled that her tooth just came out. She pulled it out of her mouth, looked at it and handed it to me. I told her how excited I was for her, which is when her tears started flowing. I thought maybe I acted too excited, was too loud or something along those lines. That wasn't it at all. She was upset because as she said, "Mommy, I lost part of my body." Wow, I had never looked at losing a tooth quite like that. She sat on my lap, we held her tooth and I let her cry. I then explained that it was okay to lose a tooth, it was a baby tooth and since she was becoming a big girl she needed a big tooth. We got out a mirror and I showed her the tooth that was coming to replace it. I also told her that everyone loses teeth and that she'll lose more but that there will be others to replace them. Finally, she was okay with losing her tooth. The night ended with her making me promise that the tooth fairy wouldn't take her tooth and that she could keep it. She said she was also scared of the tooth fairy coming in while she sleeping and that it scared her. Good point, that would scare me too!
xo
Melissa